About 

Your pleasure is deeply important (despite what society tells you).

Hi, I’m Roshni.

I’m a cis-gendered, sexually fluid, Brown woman (pronouns: she/her).

My mission is to help women and non-binary vulva owners claim their pleasure, wildness and sexual power in a trauma-informed way.

Ready to let your sexual life force flow through you and connect to wildness as your true state of being, in a way that respects your body and nervous system?

You’re in the right place.

I can help you if…

  • You want to find and express your wildness and primal nature

  • You want to find and increase your pleasure

  • You want to connect to your body

  • You want to connect to your desires and erotic aliveness

  • You want to claim your sexual power

  • You want to claim your sexual freedom 

What I stand for —

  • Sex and Pleasure are sacred and your birthright

  • Anti Racism

  • Decolonisation

  • Pro-LGBTQIA+

  • Equality, equity and inclusiveness regardless of race, ethnicity, religion, gender identity and expression, sexual orientation, sexual practices, disability, size, citizenship, age or experience

  • Informed choice rather than mandates. Your body, your choice.

  • Wildness is safe, good and essential

  • "I'm advocating on behalf of my body in a way that I never have before. And that feels so powerful. It feels like respect.

    My standard is so much higher now. And it can never be less. This work will reverberate for the rest of my life”.

    - Tarzan Kay Kalryzian

  • "I feel really appreciative to have had you, Roshni, as a safe person to explore and heal with.

    Your presence allowed me to heal in a way that may have been more difficult for me to try to do on my own. I felt safe and expansive. Following the session, I feel appreciative and also curious. I want to continue to explore my relationship to my cervix, yoni, and overall sexual health.”

    — Grace

  • "Initially, I was hesitant for this session because I come from a very religious upbringing that often causes shame around anything related to sexuality. Roshni gently guided me through exercises that helped me to accept myself and be totally open.

    She was incredibly encouraging and patient as I worked though things we talked about and shed light on so many things for me. I have felt more intentionally connected to my sexuality and sexual energy.”

    — Kandice

  • "A change I have noticed since the sessions, is confidence. I was right to be open to new things. I learned how to talk about my sexuality in a way that feels comfortable, respectful, beautiful. It helped me talk about it with more ease with a partner.

    I learned that there is so much more to know, explore and feel.

    I learned to celebrate and appreciate the little pleasures.

    I dared to use "toys" that I had never bought before.

    I pay more attention to my sensations, and feel things I did not feel before. Like contracting different parts of my vagina was mind blowing for me.”

    — Emma

Here’s my story…

You may be surprised to know that I wasn’t born into sex-positivity.

Rather, I was born into a triple-conservative environment. I was:

  1. born in Bahrain, which is a tiny country in the Middle East - right next to Saudi Arabia.

  2. brought up devoutly Catholic 

  3. part of a conservative Indian family

It was a culture, religion and country where female submissiveness was (and often, still is) the norm.

Sex and pleasure were NOT spoken about, and were considered dangerous and ‘evil’ unless they were for procreation.

I had a dual connection with pleasure and sex. I had always had a deep connection to my sexuality and pleasure, but also felt a deep fear surrounding it.

As puberty hit, all I had were Mills and Boon novels (smuggled in from my friends at school) -and virtually nothing in the form of sex education.

I migrated to the UK as a teen, bought some self-help books on sex from WHSmith, and thus began my fledgling attempts to learn about the erotic.

Except, it was far from what I’d call satisfying.

I was able to orgasm once- clitorally- but for many years, I was envious of anyone who could have multiple orgasms. 

Then, one day, with a dildo and an open mind of exploration, I went from 1 clitoral orgasm to multiple orgasms of all types: G spot, cervical, A spot, simultaneous orgasms with my partner and so many more!

Spontaneous orgasms during meditation, Think-gasms, orgasms whilst eating gelato…

I remember being very envious when I watched a video of Barbara Carellas orgasming without touching herself at all. Then, all of a sudden, I was able to do it too. 

Finally, I had a glimpse into what my body was actually capable of - and all the pleasure I was capable of experiencing. Oh, the p-l-e-a-s-u-r-e! Yes. Please. MORE!

Just as importantly, as paradigm-busting and amazing as my orgasms were, I realised that orgasms weren’t my source of self-worth. I was worthy, and will always be worthy, because I am a part of creation. So even though I enjoy as many orgasms as my body wants to now, I don’t associate my self worth with the number of orgasms I can have any more.

I realised that my sexuality, wildness and pleasure were holy. And I didn’t need to fear them or believe any of the lies that society/patriarchy told me about them.

I realised that, rather than follow pop culture, Hollywood movies or sex tips from Cosmo, each of us can discover what our sexuality, sexual power, wildness, primality and pleasure mean, for ourselves.

And the key to that?

Is tuning into the body.

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Certifications

  • Somatica® trained coach (currently in training to be Somatica®-certified)

  • Trauma-informed VITA-Certified Sex, Love and Relationships coach

  • VITA-Certified Female Sexuality Coach

  • VITA-Certified Male Sexuality Coach

  • VITA-Certified Jade Egg Coach

  • Currently training in Somatic Experiencing® (3-year Practitioner Training founded by Dr Peter Levine; Somatic Experiencing® is a body-oriented therapeutic model that helps heal trauma)

  • I’ve completed my 650+ hour (1-year) training in the Sex, Love and Relationships Certification with Layla Martin’s VITA (Vital Integrated Tantric Approach) Institute (formerly known as the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality)

Honouring my lineage

I offer my deepest gratitude to my teachers, mentors
and coaches:

Shelby Leigh, Layla Martin, Paul Marriott, Kavi Gemin, Peter Levine, Ariel Giarretto, Celeste Hirschman, Danielle Harel, Jennifer Riley, Dra Rocio Rosales Meza, Briana Borten, Chela Davison, Mantak Chia, Minke de Vos, Shashi Solluna, Saida Desilets, Parneet Chohan, Patricia Maass, Alyssa Nobriga, Akara Sophia, Lianne Schwartz, Louise Mazanti, Joelle Chartouni, Isa Herrera, Fleur Estelle, Jennifer Posada, Allura Kanna, all my martial arts teachers (particularly Ismael Mota) and many others.

I honour the Taoist lineage and Tantric Masters who have shared
their lineage with my teachers. I am grateful and honoured to
have received these transmissions.

I honour the Q'ero Inca Nation who have shared their lineage with my decolonisation teacher. I am grateful and honoured to have received these transmissions.

I also offer my deep and unending gratitude to:

My family and friends

My clients (who have taught me so much!)

My well and wise ancestors and ancient matriarchs

The Wild Feminine for choosing me to birth this work. I am beyond honoured and privileged, more than words can say and more than I can ever express

Kali Ma- who literally rescued my soul

Divine Father and Divine Mother

Yeshua

All benevolent beings who support me

Goddess Isis

Goddess Hathor

Mary Magdalene

Goddess Inanna

Mother Nature and Mother Earth… who continually support me, and from whom I learn directly <3

Want to get even more personal?

I LOVE stroking paper- and smelling it too.

After a stressful day, I’ve been known to go into the nearest newsagents and smell their brand new magazines. It just brings a kind of joy and pleasure that I really can’t describe.

I’ve belly-danced for almost a decade, including performing on stage dozens of times.

Bellydance taught me to shake *everything*, to freely move my hips and breasts in ways society hadn’t encouraged. It was liberating in ways I hadn’t even realised. When I finished my very first bellydance class, I walked out of there sashaying my hips, feeling all WO-MAN. Performing bellydance on stage taught me all about the energy exchange that happens between performer and audience- one that continues to take my breath away.

I’ve had a love affair with several martial arts and combat sports.

I’ve done boxing, thai boxing (muay thai), Krav Maga (ok, that’s a self defense system and not a sport, but still!) and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. Another fun fact: I’m always the smallest in class (and often the only woman), but I’ve always found a way to hold my own and use my strengths to my advantage- for example, did you know that a woman’s joints are, generally speaking, more flexible than a man’s? This is why, out of the junior students in my Brazilian Jiu Jitsu class (all men), none could apply a shoulder lock called the ‘omoplata’ on me. One of the senior students nicknamed me ‘super shoulder’ as a result ;)

I’m also a fantasy and erotic artist!

I draw pictures of half (or fully) naked women with various reptiles… usually snakes and crocodiles, two of my favourite animals of ALL. TIME. My dream is to befriend a live, huge, saltwater crocodile, communicate with it and develop an understanding with it.

 Curious about working together?

I’d love to hear from you.

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